Do men talk about sex with their friends?

Let’s talk about sex, baby

When I discuss my sex life with the people (read: women) that I trust the most, it’s more than just orgasm (or lack thereof). We’ve spent hundreds of hours talking about what positions we like, what positions we hate, the things we love, sexual maneuvers to take with us in the future, and — most importantly — if we actually had a good time.

And it’s not just us talking about sex. There’s a host of Cosmopolitan staff writers that make a living from penning a broad range of sex tips. And even though reading about putting cold coins on my genitalia isn’t something that has proved all that useful to my own sex life, these conversations have played a large role in making sure that I prioritize my pleasure.

Note: Cosmopolitan Magazine is not an appropriate substitute for having conversations with people you love and trust

But do we give men the space to have those conversations? In Lisa Taddeo’s New York Times bestseller, Three Women, she begins her non-fiction telling of three women’s sex lives by informing the reader why she chose not to write about men:

“The men’s stories began to bleed together. In some cases, there was prolonged courting; sometimes the courting was closer to grooming; but mostly, the stories ended up in the stammering pulses of orgasm”

By minimizing men’s sexual experiences as nothing more than a lifecycle that starts with…